The following is an excerpt from my book “Who Said I was up for Adoption?” which covers the first 18 months of Ray living with us. This particular text is near the end of the book where I am summing up the changes over the 18 month period. For more information on the book, please click on the book front cover over in the right hand column (and probably down a little!).
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When he moved in with us, his facial expressions could best be described as blank. His face gave no insight as to whether he understood us, whether he was feeling anything, or whether there was any interest in the world in general. Now he tilts his head in so many ways that, together with raised eyebrows and a number of other facial subtleties, he can say so much. He now seems to be able to tell us a number of things that could include, “I don’t get it yet, but I’m interested so keep trying” or “You said what? Did I hear you right?” or “Are you guys up to something?” or “That’s not part of our daily routine!”
When he moved in with us, he was considered unpredictable and therefore needed to be treated accordingly. Now we still have to be cautious with many aspects of him, particularly if young children are around but he does show us, by his subtle body language, when he is not happy. As we are now much better at reading his signs, we can re-direct his attention as necessary. Whereas he was clearly uncomfortable being in close proximity to strangers and dogs, he now displays more indifference than discomfort. This is, of course, an ongoing work in progress situation, but wearing a muzzle in the past became a necessity in view of his ability to totally misread a set of circumstances.
Ray has progressed to where we no longer muzzle him when out for walks. He has participated in fundraising walks for both the Humane Society and Canadian Dog Guides without his muzzle, and without any negative interactions.
When he moved in with us, the only sound he made was a very threatening bark, but now he has quite the vocabulary of sounds, most of which appear to be expressing varying degrees of frustration. This usually presents itself when he wants immediate attention, or when he was asked to do something which was clearly contrary to his wishes. He also appears to give the occasional grunt of general disapproval, or what may well be a snort of derision!
Without doubt Ray has been very challenging, but we both simply focused on all the positive aspects of him and moved forward. It would have been so easy to dwell on the negative aspects of his behavior, but we had to acknowledge his contributions in terms of efforts to change. All the time that has been spent in training Ray to become more self-assured, less threatened, and generally a more social dog, required significant cooperation from him to be as successful as we feel it has been.
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Note: All profits from book sales are directed to the Oakville & Milton Humane Society.
Colin and I have done a book swap. I’m reading his book and really enjoying it!
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Hi Paul – Hoping to start reading your “Learning from Dogs” (Innate Wisdom from Man’s Best Friend) in a couple of days. 🙂
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We love stories like this that showcase how a lot of patience and love can result in such a happy ending. Well done!
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Thanks Monika. My humans were (and still can be) a bit of a challenge but, as you noted, patience and love is all that’s necessary! BOL! Ray.
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You have done an amazing job, and believe me I know how hard it is!
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We just focus on the end result. Would we do it again? Absolutely! 🙂
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Kudos to both of you for all your hard work. It was a team effort for sure and you are reaping the rewards!
I love the pictures of Ray now where you can see varying emotions, definitely not a blank face. He smiles and looks carefree, and then there are the moments where it looks like he may be saying, “Whatever! Don’t know what you are thinking, but….” 🙂
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Yup… he has probably said those things many times! 🙂
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Ray has probably been one of the biggest adventure of your life… what incredible progress! Kudos to your patience.
I have been helping with a charity for animals and the cases are truly heartbreaking. Yet with care and love these animals thrive!
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Are they really much different to us? They just want to be loved, treated with respect, and assisted occasionally as necessary.
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Still recollect you post where you said that Ray selected you as he touched his nose to yours and his eyes met yours. Ray’s journey from hostility to indifference to love is amazing !
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That incident will be forever etched into my brain Himali! 🙂
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A memory to be cherished ! Wooof wooof
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Ray has cone a very long way from when you first got him; a testament to all of you for taking the time and making the effort. 🙂
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He was certainly a challenge, but so well worth the effort! 🙂
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Absolutely. 🙂
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