I just love a good family conversation. It doesn’t have to be particularly complex, although they can be fun, but they do have to include at least both parties contributing in a constructive manner. A one way dialogue simply indicates that this is clearly not a good time for a conversation!
It is always fun to visit Melanie (daughter) because we get lots of opportunities to chat. We talk about things in the past that perhaps should have been talked about more back then. We talk about our respective shortcomings over the years, and how bridges have since been crossed.
Many years ago she was clearly enjoying our chats, but was uncertain about whether her choice of topics would be my choice! Typically, she would start off with “Can I ask you a question?” My response has been consistent with her, Alex her daughter, and many other people. “You can ask whatever question you like. I will either answer it, or explain to you why I cannot.”
We must have discussed pretty much every aspect of our respective lives since that time.
Chatting with Simon (son) is quite different because, not only is he a totally different personality to Melanie, but his life experiences are vastly different. Talking with him has not reached the level of openness that Melanie and I have, but we are making progress. I look forward to seeing him later this year when we can takeover a pool table once again and, while he is beating me decisively, we can be sharing life’s challenges; our responses, and our successes.
Then there is Alex! Alex (Alexandra – Melanie’s daughter) is a different personality completely, although definitely her Mom’s daughter! She is very receptive to conversations and, given her life experiences which are considerable considering her age, her topic range is also very broad.
She is 22 now! How time flies…. but in 2005, she was visiting and we walked down to the lake. What a wonderful opportunity to have a conversation!
I would love to recall what we were talking about, but unfortunately I cannot! The important thing, as evidenced by the photo, is that we were clearly enjoying a chat!
What could possibly be better than chatting face to face with somebody who is important to you, and in a congenial location. Life can be good, regardless of the challenges that it often presents.