It seems to me that in order to be effective at anything, we need an appropriate tool-kit. An auto mechanic is an obvious example as without some key tools, he simply cannot do his job. Even walking Ray must include a tool-kit. We need treats, poop-bags, his collapsible water bowl and a bottle of water. We also need some less obvious tools for his walk to be effective such as a route planner which may strategically include an additional agenda (we’re almost out of bread), and we must bring our learnings about dog behavior in general, together with Ray’s specific sensitivities, along for the walk.
This line of thinking raised an interesting question: If I knew somebody in their teens, and I wanted to give them a tool-box full of the necessary tools to get them through their life, what would I put in it? My thoughts are below.
Sense of humor: You never know when circumstances are going to be less than to your liking, and the Sense of Humor tool may well be necessary to work through them towards better times.
A Little Money: Sadly it is necessary to survive in our culture however, the more you have… the more you will worry about losing it. You only need sufficient to fill your basic needs. Any more should be treated as a gift and used appropriately.
Understanding (with Compassion add-on): This is a quite complex tool, and may take some time to use it effectively. It is invaluable when interacting with others, especially those who are less fortunate than you. It will help you to see that they are a product of their environment just as you are a product of yours. The fact that the two environments are very different is nothing more than an opportunity to learn about others. The Compassion add-on tool gives you the ability to not only understand another person’s situation, but allows you to relate to it sensitively.
Self Esteem: This is an important tool because a healthy self-esteem is very important for a productive and effective life. If we think negatively about ourselves, then our life-effectiveness is compromised.
Pride Control: This is a really important tool because it reminds us that we never know everything. It makes us aware that there are always lessons to be learned either from circumstances or from other people. If you lose this tool, your life will be fraught with antagonism and frustrations.
Perseverance: This will give you the patience and determination necessary to not give up on adverse and/or difficult circumstances.
Dreams: Absolutely critical for any life tool-box because if you do not have dreams, then you will be detouring around so many potential opportunities.
Please feel free to add more tools if you think of any!