I just read a Post which stressed the lack of courtesy, and frequent disrespectful behavior in today’s society, and I would tend to agree that we are moving away from the values that were the norm of not that long ago…. or are we?
I have “collided” with a number of women whose perceived independence dictated my gentlemanly gestures (holding doors open) to be considered demeaning.
I used to enjoy driving, but now find it tiresome mainly due to the impatience and aggressive driving of others.
I was appalled when I was submitting resumes for potential work, that not one company actually acknowledged receipt of it. Contact was only from the company that was interested in proceeding further.
I am a little upset when I write a really nice letter thanking a business for providing such wonderful service over many years but must regrettably discontinue, and the letter is not acknowledged.
I am dismayed when a business makes a mistake, and (in fairness) corrects it, but offers no apology for any inconvenience.
Is this really the direction the world is going? I really don’t believe so.
I am reminded of my pre-retirement commute to work, which involved traveling on a major highway. I would guess that I shared the road with probably 500 vehicles during each trip and there were inevitably 2 or 3 delinquent drivers each time. It was an interesting revelation when I realized how much I used to reflect on those 2 or 3 idiot drivers, and not acknowledge the other 497/498 perfectly good drivers.
Likewise I can vividly remember a lady who blasted me for holding a door open for her because (apparently) it reflected on her own capability!!! That was some time ago and I have held many doors since, but I cannot remember any of the people who smiled and said thank you!
Perhaps our society is not really deteriorating in the concepts of courtesy and respect. Perhaps we just need to put events into a more balanced perspective and recognize the fact that for every negative interaction we experience, there are so many more positive ones that we should be dwelling on. Why should I dwell on the “checkout girl” with the attitude of total indifference, when I have experienced so many others who seemed genuinely pleased to be serving me.
We seem to have a pre-disposition to focus on negatives but. like everything else in our lives, we have choices. We can assume everybody is dishonest, treat people accordingly, and miss out on some wonderful relationships, or we can assume everybody is honest and be disappointed occasionally. It is all a matter of recognizing the options and then making a conscious choice!
I WILL remember all the good drivers on the roads. I WILL remember those friendly smiles as I display some form of respect and/or courtesy. I WILL remember that lovely “How may I help you?”, or even the traditional (at least in Canada) “Have a nice day!” I WILL remember that there are people in the world (a minority) who are irresponsible; dishonest and rude. I WILL remember that there are people who, through no fault of theirs, are in a traumatic situation and just need their personal space. I WILL remember all those things because I WILL then have a much healthier and realistic perspective on my world.
My world WILL be a much happier place! What does your world look like?