Ray is clearly attached to both of us however, I have to concede that if he had to choose between us, I would not win!
I am very happy with this situation because dealing with his separation anxiety as it relates to me is a minor challenge when compared to what Carol has to work with!
When she left for work, he would originally whine for a few moments and then find me and settle down for the day. He would then stay pretty calm until the evening when Carol was due home and his “built-in clock” told him that it would be soon. A car turning into our driveway would put him on alert, regardless of the fact that it was not Carol’s car.
More recently however, he would seem to be displaying something close to Hachiko (aka Hachi) symptoms. For the benefit of anybody who does not know Hachi, he was a dog in Japan who had a book written about him. The book was the inspiration for a movie starring Richard Gere, but the location was transposed to the U.S. It is a lovely movie which is why I will not give the story away.
Anyway, now when Carol leaves, his first reaction when the back door closes is to run through into the living room and jump up onto a chair so that he can see out of the window which overlooks our driveway. If he does not see her he returns to the back door and waits, after which he runs through and back onto the chair to look out of the window again. He will stay there for quite some time, just looking outside, but will eventually will settle down and have a relatively relaxed day………… unless a car pulls into the driveway!
Our location is proving a sensitive issue with Ray. We live on a street with free parking, but at the end of our street is a road with numerous retail businesses which includes a broad array of restaurants. To park near those businesses means feeding a parking meter, so what often happens is cars turn onto our street for a free parking spot and use our driveway to turn around (as parking is only allowed on our side of the street).
You can probably imagine Ray’s reaction every time a car uses our driveway. Just recently, he took his “enthusiasm” to a new level. He heard a noise outside and jumped up onto the chair but, for some reason, decided that the nearby coffee table would give a better vantage point! When 75lbs of dog lands on a coffee table, with numerous potted plants happily sitting there, the plants do not respond particularly well!
Ray appeared to realize that, in hindsight, not only was that a bad decision on his part, but it gained him nothing. To be fair, he has not done it since, but waiting for Carol is still a problematic time for him. Hachiko syndrome perhaps?